The Foreign Service Journal, May 2022

68 MAY 2022 | THE FOREIGN SERVICE JOURNAL He was a member of the National Rifle Association and enjoyed serving as a scoutmaster. Wearing shirts covered in Boy Scout patches and medals, he cared about his scouts so much that he called them “his kids.” His family remembers him as a pre- cise, quirky, wonderful husband, father, brother and role model who encouraged others to be courageous, curious and self-reliant. Mr. Nakpil is survived by his beloved wife, AyaMartine Nakpil; his sons, Jules Nakpil, SimNakpil and Karl Nakpil; his sib- lings, Victoria L. Nakpil of Fernandina, Fla., Luis L. Nakpil (and his wife, Michelle Lee) of Potomac, Md., Albert L. Nakpil (and his wife, Cynthia) of State College, Penn.; and many nieces, nephews and cousins. n Phyllis Oakley , 87, a retired For- eign Service officer and former assistant secretary of State, passed away on Jan. 22, 2022, at a hospital in Washington, D.C., following a cardiac arrest. Phyllis Elsa Elliott was born in Omaha on Nov. 23, 1934, and grew up in Lincoln, Neb., Columbus, Ohio, and St. Louis, Mo. Her father was a salesman for the Rawlings Sporting Goods Company, and her mother was a high school math and chemistry teacher. She was always interested in public affairs, and received material from the State Department about job opportuni- ties when she was just 12 years old, as she related in her interview with the Association for Diplomatic Studies and Training. In 1956 Ms. Oakley graduated from Northwestern University with a bach- elor’s degree in political science and the next year received a master’s degree from Tufts University’s Fletcher School of Law and Diplomacy. In 1957 she joined the Foreign Service; yet her marriage the following year to a fellow FSO, Robert B. Oakley, meant the end of her career within the department. (It wasn’t until 1971 that an unwritten rule stipulating only single females could be FSOs was abolished.) She resigned and accompanied her husband to Sudan, Côte d’Ivoire, France and Lebanon. Ms. Oakley later called Beirut her favorite post. When her husband went to Vietnam from 1965 to 1967, she stayed behind