The Foreign Service Journal, November 2021

THE FOREIGN SERVICE JOURNAL | NOVEMBER 2021 79 sad, uncomfortable and isolated. These parents don’t want us to pretend that there is no disability, but instead to see beyond it, and acknowledge their child’s own unique passions, quali- ties, strengths and skills. In time, having a better understanding of diversity in all its forms will lead to enriching social interac- tions for all children involved. 4. Our kids also want to be accepted and included. One of the most heartbreaking experiences for any parent is witness- ing their child being excluded in a social setting. Some parents of special needs children endure this pain frequently. Often children with special needs don’t have the social or physical skills to jump in and play, interact and converse with others. Some children may need a little time to join the group, but this does not mean they do not want to be a part of it. Please keep giving them a chance and ask them to join again. Some special needs children might get overwhelmed or tired while in a group, and they might need a break; but this doesn’t mean that they want to stop interacting altogether. Welcoming them after they have a break will allow them to keep having fun and keep practicing their skills. Including them in the choice of game or topic of conversation is another way to make sure they can take part in the activity. When our kids learn how to include others, especially those with special needs, and develop the skills of empathy and understanding, it will be a meaningful and proud milestone in their own development, as well. 5. Getting my child the help they need overseas is not easy. Parents with special needs kids often find themselves pushing boulders up hills to get their child the resources they need at post. Some parents struggle with medical services or gear that might not be readily available. Some even struggle with getting the right foods for their child at post, which is why you might see some strange DPO/Pouch orders; please be understanding that these items might be among the few foods a child is able to eat. Some schools around the world are great; but, unfortunately, most international schools do not offer the services (or the quality of services) and trained staff necessary to educate special needs children effectively. “How can I help you?” is a great question to ask because it offers presence and a willingness to help right away.